How well is your listening? Be Amazed how CONFUSING it can be!

   Happy SUNDAY everyone!!! How are you feeling? Hope you have the greatest weekend ever! What about you Ms. Allison? Had a great time at the training I supposed? Which required lots of Effective Listening Skill right? hahahaha~ Hope it went good on your side. I know how draggy it can be if I attend one of those, just need to find something FUN from it. 

  Do you know that being an emcee require you to have an extra effective listening skill? Because there's simply loud noise from everywhere and you need to keep everyone in the flow! On top of that, you have to pay attention to your partner as well so that we can interact casually without any stumble words in between. (Jose & me hosting for Legend to Life Night)

Jose as MJ & me as Marylin Monroe!!! =)

   

    Anyways, how well do you think you do when listening to someone? Do you understand exactly what the person says? I know sometimes it can be hard. In fact, we usually have the tendency to assume what will happen or how the story ends. The listeners we are today is widely constructed by the previous response also known as STROKES given by our parents and surrounding when we are young. If you received positive strokes and people listen to you most of the time, most likely you would listen to others when your adults. However, if your mom keep on shush you every time you try to give your point of view, you may think that speaking is important than listening. In the end, you just can't wait to say something and won't listen to the main point.

   Honestly, we all love to talk. We can talk from day till night without stopping if we can, that is if someone willing to listen of course. Otherwise, there's no point of talking anyway. In my life, I have never encounter any problems with my friends or had any arguments except with my boyfriend. That is a different story because we have to argue to show some love with your boyfriend, right ladies? hahahaha~ Frankly, my friends love me because I'm a good listener. Most of the time they caught me at the wrong time like when I'm in the cinema watching movie or when I'm having important dinners. But as a friend, I know I have to be there for them in time of need. I would listen to them without any hesitation. What we don't understand about effective listening is that we always thought that when we listen to someone's problem, we should give advice or solutions to it. But actually that's not what they want, that's not how it works! All they want is for you to LISTEN!  

   Personally, I have people coming to me from time to time to share their problems. Sometimes, I feel like I'm an unqualified psychologist. Sat in my room and listening to people's problem. But I do quite a lot of preaching as well! When my house mates are bored, they would ask me to tell my past experience story such as how to deal with family matters, relationships, friends and life. It's always good to listen to other people as it will give you some insights of what they really are and how they would react to their problems. 

   For example, my ex-boyfriend would always come to me to share his opinions about anything or problems. Even my best friend ask why on earth he's still come and find you when he has a girlfriend to talk to. The answer is simply because I listen and she don't. There were a time where all we have to do is just listen but not giving any solution. It is their life, and they should take control of their life and not us.

   Last night, I received a news from my friend saying that one of our friend commit suicide. She is a good Indian friend but the way she tackles her problem is just wrong. I was so devastated when I hear that because I was away and I could not be there to hear her problems. She decided to kill herself when she knew that she was pregnant. Instead of discussing it with her parents she kill herself. She says that her parents will never understand and they would never listen to her. See how effective listening is vital in someone's life? it can even lead to fatal. 

   

   There are some nonverbal gestures for you to pay attention to when listening to others. It may seems little or less important but these are the signs that will give you the hint of how the person really feels inside and what's playing in their mind. I shall discuss it in my next post. Till then, just make sure you listen to your friends when they need you!

  P/S: I would like to take this opportunity to say a gargantuan thank you to my mom for being there for me and listen to me without any complains! You are the BEST MOM ever! Love you to heaps!